Even though most couples are having regular sex long before marriage, wedding night sex still carries with it expectations for once-in-a-lifetime intimacy, says award-winning author and sexologist Claudia Six, Ph.D. And along with those high expectations, she points out, comes the very real possibility of major disappointment—particularly for couples who have drunk too much, slept too little and traveled great distances.
“Wedding night sex is emotionally heightened,” Six says. “People have been congratulating you all day and your heart is full. At last, you are finally husband and wife but sometimes your high expectations will be met by sudden resentment.”
The author of the multiple-award winning book Erotic Integrity: How to Be True to Yourself Sexually and creator of a new “Explore Your Erotic Integrity” online program that complements it, offers these suggestions for amazing wedding night sex:
- Discuss wedding night expectations in advance.
- Write and privately share romantic sexual wedding vows with each other.
- Drink plenty of water on the big day.
- Get some nice sex toys.
- Wear lingerie only if it makes you feel sexy. If a bride feels sexier wearing a tank top and G-string or boxer shorts than fancy lingerie that’s what she should wear.
- Scatter rose petals around the bed for added romance.
Praise for Erotic Integrity
“Erotic Integrity is a fascinating journey into the depths of male and female sexuality. …Read it and enjoy!” — John Gray, bestselling author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
“Take this book to bed with you, curl up with your main squeeze and a glass of wine, and you will be surprised by what you didn’t know about erotic integrity.” — Sam Keen, author of Fire in the Belly
About the Author
Claudia Six has an MA in counseling psychology and a PhD in clinical sexology. She has helped thousands of individuals and couples with relationship and sexual challenges during her 25 years of practice. Her TED talk on performance anxiety can be found here http://drsix.net/.